
Genre- memoir, non-fiction
“Why are we so bad at being honest about our feelings? Is it because we’re so exhausted from living that we don’t have the time to share them? I had an urge to find others who felt the way I did. So I decided, instead of aimlessly wandering in search of these others, to be the person they could look for—to hold my hand up high and shout, I’m right here, hoping that someone would see me waving, recognize themselves in me and approach me, so we could find comfort in each other’s existence.”
A friend and I were at blossom book house a couple of days ago and despite a rising number of unread books on our shelves, we impulsively purchased two separate copies of “I Want to Die but I Want to Eat Tteokbokki” by Baek Sehee after reading the blurb (as individuals who struggle with understanding and responding to emotional cues, we were sold). I was drawn to it because of the raw emotion and vulnerability displayed in the writing.
The book tells the story of a young woman struggling with depression and the desire to end her life, while at the same time finding solace in the simple pleasure of eating tteokbokki, a Korean street food.
Baek Sehee’s writing is incredibly powerful and moving. She deftly captures the intense pain and despair of depression, as well as the all-consuming thoughts of suicide that often accompany it. At the same time, she also conveys the small moments of joy and relief that come from indulging in a favorite food, and how those moments can provide a temporary escape from the darkness.
One of the things I loved most about this book was the way Baek Sehee interwove her personal experiences with depression and thoughts of suicide with the cultural significance of tteokbokki in Korean society. She explores how the spicy, savory dish is often seen as a comfort food, and how it can bring people together in moments of happiness or sorrow.
As someone who has struggled with depression myself, I found myself completely drawn into the protagonist’s story and could relate to her experiences on a deep level. I also appreciated the way Baek Sehee tackled such a difficult and sensitive subject with honesty and sensitivity, refusing to shy away from the painful realities of mental illness. Very honestly, I cannot comment on the psychiatrist’s ability to help their patient and at times I was extremely confused with the kind of guidance and advice that the psychiatrist would give out. That being said, the book brought me a lot of peace and comfort and helped me get over a bad reading slump.
The biggest takeaway for me, personally, as someone who is an empath- through and through (it’s either that or I have a very bad messiah complex) was the fact that sometimes empathising with others can actually be a bad thing. For instance, when one empathises too much, it becomes a chore and actually results in decreasing empathy. So, no more casually giving out my freshly baked chocolate chip cookies to anyone outside my inner circle. Makes a lot of sense, really.
“I Want to Die but I Want to Eat Tteokbokki” is a beautifully written and deeply moving book that offers a poignant exploration of depression and the search for moments of joy in the midst of despair. I highly recommend it to anyone who has experienced mental illness or who simply wants to better understand the complexities of the human mind.










